Anyway!
The wise reminder of the week is about thinking. The non-perfect deal is in the previous post so if you missed it, well, you had like 3 months to read it! (to start with) and you can always click on the link and go back and read it (but you should have done that 3 months ago >_> ).
I know how most of us get caught over-thinking, like that's going to solve something or anything! It's ok, we're humans, some of us like to think more than others but, the point here is that we shouldn't just think about things and torture ourselves about it.
I've been going through some serious thinking myself and some of it is necessary but there are some thoughts that aren't and, yes, it is hard to identify which one is helping me and which one is just making me feel worst so, when in doubt, trust your feelings. Exactly, those weird things that randomly make you cry over a movie or book or because the world is messed up or that song that reminded you of something or someone; or that makes you laugh like a maniac over nothing, smile to yourself over good memories, or get angry at stupid people for being stupid and so on.
I have to say this, because I know there is a lot of stupidity in the world, it's not as simple as saying "I feel disgusted! this must be bad" or "I feel good so this must be good for me". No, it's not the shallow idea of the feeling what tells us if it's good or bad, it's the rationalized feeling what gives us the answer. Yeah, I don't care much if it sounds "too complicated" because it's really simple: When you feel something that bothers you, go third party mode and ask yourself: why are you feeling that way?. 'Why' is the magic question. Remember, don't go around giving dumb answers or just say something to make yourself feel better about things or to keep being all emo. Be honest!. After all, it's all about understanding and answers aren't always pretty and cuddly, they're simple and direct.
Like, ok, maybe your bf or gf are good peeps but you still don't feel too sure about it. Ask why! and go 3rd party mode, if you were a friend witnessing that, what would you tell that friend to do? We all care about our friends, we will always tell them to do what's best for them so, why not do what's best for us?
We over-think about things that we've done or said or didn't do or say; what good does that do? can you fix it by just thinking about it? of course not but, could it be fixed in any way? then think about a solution instead of thinking on new ways to torture yourself. That's how you identify the useful from the useless thoughts.
If you're feeling bad and thinking mean things about yourself and the world, that not necessarily are taking you anywhere but the pill drawer, then you have a bad, useless thought :3 If, on the other hand, yes, you feel bad but you're thinking how to make things better or fix it, that's a good thought.
FYI; the thoughts that also go all like: "let's drink until I end up having bathroom sex with a stranger because the world sucks and I'm stupid anyway", you've guessed right, that's a bad, useless thought ( :D Yay! cookies for all!). I mean, there's nothing wrong about getting distracted when you're feeling down but at least do it in a way that shows some self-respect. Go to the movies, read a book, watch a new series, go out for a coffee with friends, go to a concert, meet up with your friends to be silly, or simply do something different!.
I don't drink or smoke or w/e because I don't get the point on doing so, it's expensive, useless and a superficial distraction. But that's another story.
Soooo... yeah, I think that's the basics of smart thinking when in trouble. I guess the most important factor is to always take care of yourself. We all feel down at some point and think we suck, in a bad way, but at the end we should always strive to feel good again (Hurting the least people possible in the process, as well).
Taa daaa! I think I'm done for now.
Don't be a procrastinator and have a good week! :3
Ranx2
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